I guess trust brings up vulnerability. It takes into consideration if the person or situation is trustworthy. If you, yourself are trustworthy. It brings up risk.
Trust isn’t easy. Nothing worth your time is.
My question for you today and every day of your life is… do you trust yourself?
In the same way, I’m asking you, do you think YOU matter? Do you think you’re valuable? Do you think it’s important to do what you say you’ll do – for others and yourself? Do you think it’s important to SEE yourself and be honest about that?
Do you trust yourself?
If you don’t, don’t hate on yourself. That won’t help.
Have you ever said that to yourself, about yourself? Out loud.
Try it out. Seriously.
(Accepting yourself. Loving yourself. That doesn’t mean approving of things you don’t like about yourself, like bad habits or addictions. Approving and accepting are two very different things.)
So why not try feeding yourself a new idea… that you accept all of yourself? Instead of letting everyone outside of you brainwash you into believing you’re not enough.
You are, by the way. Good enough. Don’t forget to talk to yourself like you are.
If you aren’t making mistakes, that means you’re not trying to grow, learn, or become.
We have such a nasty stigma surrounding mistakes. It’s as if we think making a mistake is the same thing as failing. Or being bad, wrong, or flawed somehow. As if making a mistake means we aren’t good enough or worthy.
Which is a ridiculous notion. That I totally struggle with.
Next time you make a mistake, don’t be mean to yourself.
Instead, ask yourself what you can learn from it? How it can help you move forward more effectively.
It’s a learning curve. NOT a stick to beat yourself with.
What we can do, is take the energy of the situation and morph it into something creative instead of destructive.
What are you trying to control that you cannot?
Be honest with yourself.
How can you use it to your advantage? What can you do to tap into the potential and turn it into positive growth, creativity, or a catalyst?
(i am not however, releasing you of all responsibility… there are a lot of things we can control and are responsible for. but that’s a discussion for another day)
I have a very simple suggestion for you today. A simple but not easy prescription for emotional pain.
STOP BLOODY COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHER PEOPLE
Got it?
There is nothing good about comparing yourself to others and then beating yourself over the head with everything you AREN’T, compared to them.
You’re NOT them. You’re you. Period. No ifs, ands, or buts about it.
Everyone has an entirely different set of variables. You need to work within your variables and decide who you want to be and what you want to do from there.
I so easily look at others my age and stand in awe (for maybe five seconds) at how much they’ve accomplished. And then I promptly beat myself up for not measuring up.
This doesn’t help me in any way. It doesn’t motivate, it tears down.
