I hear that a lot.
For about the past five or so years, I’ve grown rather bitter towards this word.
Sorry is defined as meaning, “feeling distress, esp. through sympathy with someone else’s misfortune”, according to Google Define. “Feeling sorrow, regret, or penitence; mournful, sad”, according to the Merriam Webster’s dictionary.
THIS is how it’s used when I hear it:
Oh, no, you caught me/called me on my crap, so I’m sorry, I’m going to respond with extreme outrage and deny everything, or wither into a pool of self pity and whine about how I’m trying so hard and no one understands how hard life is on me. I promise I won’t let you catch me again/I’ll come up with a better lie/excuse next time.
And then they do it again. And again. And again. And say sorry. Again, like it means something.
And for those who say they’re trying ‘so hard’ – how are you trying if you’re doing the same thing over and over again the exact same way, wanting the exact same thing, and knowing you’ll get away with it just exactly like the last times – and with the intention and full knowing that you’ll do it again? You’re not trying. You’re making an excuse so that those outside of the situation think you’re trying (and if the person you’re apologizing too then doesn’t accept your apology, they’re the one looking as if in the wrong) and you can continue to NOT try to do anything to right the wrong you’re continuing to do.
Promises mean everything but once they’re broken sorry means nothing.
Sorry is not a rubber stamp, making whatever you just got caught or called on doing, okay or acceptable. Sorry, does not magically erase everything you just said, caused, and/or did.
Sorry does not take away the sting, the pain, the memory of the person who you just wronged.
Sorry, is when you truly, really, 100% feel REGRETFULL about what you did, DON’T want to do it again, WISH you could take the pain away from the person you just hurt, and WILL try your hardest not to do it/cause it again.
Sorry should not be a knee-jerk-reaction. It should not be the response you throw at people in normal conversation.
But that’s what it’s been reduced to in my life. And really, I’m tired of it.
So. If you’re going to say sorry to me – MEAN IT. Or shut up. I’m worth more than your empty words.
And I’ll work on not saying sorry about things I’m not actually sorry about, like apologizing for having my own opinion or having pale skin or a strange outlook on life. Nope, not actually sorry, so why am I apologizing in normal conversation when no one got hurt?
It’s not about how many times you tell someone that you love them, it’s about how many times you prove that you do.
They say when it comes to relationships, have a little faith. Well, to that I say – I’m tired of having faith in people, only for them to let me down. I think it’s high time the people in my life prove they love me, prove they’re a real friend.
Prove I mean something to you, not by your words alone – I don’t need lip service – but by how you treat me, how you interact with me, what you do for and with me, and why. And better yet – just be a good bloody person! If you want to be my friend, you can’t go around beating waiters and burying bodies. (Well, maybe, under specific instances, but whatever.) Don’t treat other people like less than human.
Don’t give me hollow words. Treat me like I mean something to you.
We think too much and feel too little.
– Charlie Chaplin
*Okay, mini rant over.* 😉