Whatever you feel you cannot overcome, you can.
Whatever you feel you can’t survive, you will.
Whatever you feel makes you weak, can make you strong.
Whatever you fear makes you unlovable, makes you human and relatable.
Whatever challenge in your life feels like it will never end, it will.
Whatever or whoever has left you feeling empty and hopeless and broken and incapable of picking yourself back up so that you can keep going… it doesn’t matter what or who it is, they cannot win. Because you are so much more than who you were yesterday, then what you feel in this moment. You are so much more than your fears for tomorrow and the anxieties that you wake up to.
It does matter how afraid you are. How filled with worry you are. How much pressure you feel. It does matter that you feel terrified to fail, to let someone down, to let yourself down. It does matter that you feel alone or empty or broken.
Everything you feel matters.
But what you feel is what you feel. Your emotions are not your identity.
Do you notice yourself thinking, “I am angry”? That’s not accurate. You are who you are. You feel anger. That anger does not define you.
So when you feel broken. You are not broken. You are simply resting and recovering and grieving and preparing. You are growing stronger, gaining new experience, learning what does not work, building an extra layer of skin.
Every time you feel like you cannot keep going, you can.
I am not saying it will be easy. I am not saying there are any magic words that will take all the pain away and make you feel strong and in control and “all together”.
What I’m saying is, stay true to yourself. If you feel exhausted, you have the right to feel exhausted. Allow yourself to feel that. But it doesn’t define who you are. It’s simply defines what you’re in the process of overcoming.
Do you ever take a look at what you’ve already overcome? At the situations and relationships and challenges in life that you thought were impossible or would never end? You’re here now. You overcame them. They ended.
You can do this.
You can fight for the life, the job, the relationships, the identity you want.
But you have to believe you deserve it. I’m here to tell you that you do. You deserve all the beauty this world has to offer you.
But you also deserve all the suffering it has to offer to you. Because there’s no way for us to get strong if there is no pain involved. There is no growth if some part of us does not grow old and stagnant and die.
There is no rebirth if part of us doesn’t die first.
The pain will end. You will continue to get stronger. You can find a way to navigate this life and still enjoy it.