Copyright Daphne Shadows. All Rights Reserved.
Copyright Daphne Shadows. All Rights Reserved.
Just kidding. It’s not going to be that kind of post. Thank heaven, right?
Every time I go online I read about how terrible the past year was. I remember reading the same thing last year. I might have even agreed last year.
My sister said something to this effect a few weeks ago – about how everyone she’s talking to is upset over how terrible the past year has been.
This got me thinking.
We tend to focus on all the misery in our lives. It’s certainly easier to find. All you have to do is wake up and feel, experience, let in the morning and something negative is bound to get in.
But how often do we search for the positive?
Our brains certainly like going about things the easy way.
So if we constantly focus (whether on purpose or subconsciously) on the negative, then our brain’s shorthand shoves a homing beacon in everything negative and keeps a close eye on it.
The latter end of this year, I really got to work on paying attention to what I focused on, where my brain wondered to, what I looked for in situations.
Now, I’m not saying that bad things don’t happen and negativities aren’t nakedly apparent in our society today.
What I am saying is that what we focus on is what’s going to grow. Literally.
If we go looking for negatives and horrid things about our daily lives, that’s what we’re going to find.
Don’t worry – if we don’t go searching for them, they won’t pack up and go away.
But the downside to focusing on the negative is that we will miss all the good stuff this life has to offer.
And there is so much beauty in this world to be noticed.
The past year brought me a lot of self-awareness, to name one great thing.
What about you?
What good things did the year 2018 bring you?
It happens. For one reason or another, some of us easily get bogged down by one negativity, pain, or bad situation or another.
So here are a few quotes to hopefully give you some perspective and hope.
“Self-care isn’t always manicures, bubble baths, and eating healthy food. Sometimes it’s forcing yourself to get out of bed, take a shower, and participate in life again.”
“The moment you feel you have to prove your worth to someone is the moment to absolutely and utterly walk away.”
― Alysia Harris
“The past is behind, learn from it. The future is ahead, prepare for it. The present is here, live it.”
― Thomas S. Monson
“We can only be what we give ourselves the power to be.”
– Native American Proverb
“Raise your words, not your voice. It is the rain that grows flowers, not thunder.”
“Within the chaos, magic is found.”
– Tara Isis Gerris
“Sometimes, good things fall apart so better things can fall together.”
– Marilyn Monroe
“It never hurts to keep looking for sunshine.”
“There’s no shame in having to fight every day. If you’re still alive to hear these words… then you are winning your war. You’re here.”
– Jared Padalecki
“Life is a journey to be experienced, not a problem to be solved.”
– Winnie the Pooh
“A non-writing writer is a monster courting insanity.”
– Franz Kafka
There is a lot of beauty in yourself and in this world.
Don’t give up on that.
*awkwardly shuffles onto your screen*
How are you doing?
Just wanted to stop by, let you know you’re awesome, and leave this here…
Put yourself first. You can’t be anything for anybody else unless you take care of yourself. -Unknown
(we can’t give if we’re empty)
(and remember that little tidbit about being in an airplane crash? how we’re supposed to put OUR oxygen mask on BEFORE the adorable, helpless infant? that’s because we will die before we can help the infant – if we don’t help ourselves FIRST.)
We will never reach a better life until we can imagine it for ourselves and allow ourselves to have it. — Richard Bach
oh and this too…
“If you get tired learn to rest, not to quit.”
okay, bye for now! (also, here’s an awe-inspiring photo)
and this one too
and this one too – because isn’t it just freaking awesome?!
Sometimes, we need the reminder.
“Beauty surrounds us.”
I am feeling quiet inside today.
As if a peacefulness has unrolled its yoga mat inside me and got to work.
It’s a calmness.
It is also quite strange.
For me, you see.
It allows me to remember all the sweetness, while acknowledging the scars.
Just because there is darkness in here, doesn’t mean it’s all I have to offer.
There’s also a pain in my chest.
It keeps speaking up.
I’m okay with that too.
That isn’t all there is.
By Daphne Shadows
Something a man said today.
A little story, if you will.
He was driving toward a meeting I attend and noticed that the rain water looked ready to spill over.
Immediately, an immense sadness filled him.
The rain turned to tears in his mind.
This rain, it must spill and soak the earth to bring new change, to grow something wonderful.
Our tears must fall.
We use them to water our lives, to spill this pain, so something magnificent can grow from it.
We cannot grow until we allow ourselves to feel the pain, the sadness, we sometimes feel.
It can change into something poignant, and from there, beauty.
Every life is a collection of stories.
This story feels like it became mine, even as it was his.
We absorb and collaborate, with only the mere telling or hearing of a story. We bind them to our souls and feed them for others to hear, to learn from, to become.