Cut the crap.
Get over yourself.
Get over all the dramas of your life and the dramas of your relationships.
I love that the support group I go to helps me to see that I am held responsible for myself and no one else.
I can be here to support but I am not here to fix people or their situations. Enabling them will help them stay ill. Keeping them from feeling the consequences of their actions, inactions, and/or words will help them stay ill. Lying so that I appear to be who they want me to be will help them stay ill.
Not doing that.
Doesn’t matter what kind of illness it is either. There are so many addictions. So many ways for us to hurt ourselves and others.
I am responsible for me.
You are responsible for you.
My words, my actions, my issues, my pain – my responsibility to deal with.
But that’s not what I want to get into today.
Today, I want to challenge the saying, “grow up”.
I was going to add it to my thought process. My support group reminds me, tough love, grow up.
But that’s not quite right.
Tough love at times yes.
“Growing up” isn’t exactly getting good at life. It isn’t exactly enjoying life. It isn’t exactly living life.
Perhaps what we really need is youth. A youthful mindset.
(Not childishness. Don’t think child. Think youthful. Really, there’s a difference.)
Youth focuses on self-care and self-love and relationship with God (or whatever your Higher Power is), and then thinks of others.
Youth says “no” and doesn’t feel ashamed for meeting their NEEDS before someone else’s WANTS. (Don’t forget, unless you’re the parent to a child, other peoples’ needs are their responsibility to meet. You don’t disregard your needs to help someone else meet their needs because they’re good at manipulating you, or a thousand other scenarios.)
If we are to become youthful, we will know and believe we matter and so do all others; humans, animals, and nature alike.
Enjoy our lives more.
Seek out what we are passionate about more.
Change our perspectives. If we make a mistake – we are NOT horrible, a loser, the scum of the earth, etc. – instead, when we make a mistake, why not think of it as an experiment?
Youthfulness realizes life is a gift.
Youthfulness accepts that life is going to hurt.
Youthfulness both knows and believes we have to create our own magic to feel our lives are magical.