11 Quotes for Those With Holiday Blues

It happens. For one reason or another, some of us easily get bogged down by one negativity, pain, or bad situation or another. 

So here are a few quotes to hopefully give you some perspective and hope.

 

“Self-care isn’t always manicures, bubble baths, and eating healthy food. Sometimes it’s forcing yourself to get out of bed, take a shower, and participate in life again.”

– Unknown

 

“The moment you feel you have to prove your worth to someone is the moment to absolutely and utterly walk away.”

― Alysia Harris

 

“The past is behind, learn from it. The future is ahead, prepare for it. The present is here, live it.”

― Thomas S. Monson

 

“We can only be what we give ourselves the power to be.”

– Native American Proverb

 

“Raise your words, not your voice. It is the rain that grows flowers, not thunder.”

– Rumi 

 

“Within the chaos, magic is found.”

– Tara Isis Gerris

 

“Sometimes, good things fall apart so better things can fall together.”

– Marilyn Monroe

 

“It never hurts to keep looking for sunshine.” 

– Eeyore 

 

“There’s no shame in having to fight every day. If you’re still alive to hear these words… then you are winning your war. You’re here.” 

– Jared Padalecki

 

“Life is a journey to be experienced, not a problem to be solved.”

– Winnie the Pooh

 

“A non-writing writer is a monster courting insanity.”

– Franz Kafka

 

There is a lot of beauty in yourself and in this world.

Don’t give up on that.

 

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12 Kinds of Halloween Partakers in Shades of Eeyore

THE SUPERHERO

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THE VILLIAN

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THAT ONE FRIEND WHO IS ALWAYS COLD

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THE MODEL

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THE COOL KID

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THE CREEPY STALKER WHO KEEPS LOOKING AT YOU (and may possibly be possessed but is trying to play it cool)

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THE TODDLER WHO DOESN’T WANT TO WALK

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THE DRAMA KING/QUEEN (who takes loads of pictures)

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THAT ONE FRIEND WHO’S HAD TOO MUCH SUGAR (and doesn’t want to go home, ever)

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THE GOOFY ONES

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THE TEACHERS 

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THE KIDS WHO AREN’T ALLOWED TO TRICK OR TREAT (but really want to)

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ME as EEYORE (from Winnie the Pooh)

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I HOPE YOU GUYS AND GALS ENJOYED HALLOWEEN, REGARDLESS OF WHAT YOU DID!!! 

So, what did ya do?

What kinds of Halloween people did you see this year?

Who did you dress up as? 

Did you have fun?

Mental Illness and Failure

https://www.healthyplace.com/insight/quotes/quotes-on-mental-health-and-mental-illness

 

I read over this, continued on, then stopped as the end of the quote made it through my “scanning” mentality and into my freaking rib cage, where it proceeded to rattle around and saunter on into my soul with a glass of chocolate milk, a hatchet, and a killer smile painted red (from the blood of my demons, not lipstick).

 

“Your mental illness is not a personal failure.”

NOT

A

PERSONAL

FAILURE

 

…Yeah… Just let that beauty sink in.

Seriously. Take a minute.

 

I don’t think a sentence has ever given me such a pause.

If I get caught in a hurricane, a volcano’s explosive raining lava (like in the movies), and an earth cracking earthquake – all at once – I will not be as shooketh.

And I do not mean to cheapen the gravity of this truth with goofy word-smithery. But this is who I am. And if we’re on the subject of truth, how can I mute my strangeness while trying to communicate the uncommunicable of HOW THIS QUOTE HIT ME IN THE HEAD WITH A COYOTE AND ROADRUNNER SIZED ANVIL and then let me fall down the rabbit hole, forever?

The answer… I cannot.

 

My issues, they are not a personal failure.

This never occurred to me before.

Feeling ashamed to tell the truth, that ‘no’, I’m still not doing okay. I am still struggling. I am still broken and scarring and trying as hard as I can to dig myself out of a hole, only to find that I’m standing in the middle of a desert with a body bag and a knife.

…. This isn’t me failing.

This is me telling the truth.

Trying as hard as I can.

And feeling shame when I can’t just “pull myself up by the bootstraps” and become a mentally stable person.

 

Someone told me I remind them of Eeyore in the mornings when she picks me up for work. She didn’t say it maliciously. She was smiling. She is okay with who I am.

Why can’t I be?

Why do I see myself as a failure because I am not “whole” like other people?

Why do I feel the need to “get over” mental illness the way that people get over a cold?

I don’t have any outward symptoms. Any tell-tale signs of a physical illness. And unlike a sinus infection or bronchitis, I cannot “get over” mental illness and expect God to wipe me clean of the challenge He gave me.

Who knows if it’s a lifelong challenge? I might wake up in three years from now and no longer struggle with mental illness. I’m a believer in miracles. But I’m also a believer in God (or whatever/whoever your Higher Power is) giving us trials. And some of those trials are lifelong.

 

People don’t seem to understand this.

They expect us, those with mental illness, to simply chipper up. To get better and stay better forever. That because we had a good day, a good week, a good month, that we’re “cured” and we won’t struggle with this in the future.

A bad day, a bad week, a bad month, these things aren’t signs of failure or doing worse. They’re symptoms of mental illness.

And guess what?

We understand.

Sure, some of us use it as an excuse to do nothing, to expect nothing of ourselves, and to do nothing but wallow in the pain and expect everyone to disfigure their faces in sorrow and pity and miserate with us. But there are people like that in every walk of life, whether mentally ill or not.

Those people are a personality type. Much different from a passing emotion or coping mechanism or grieving stage. They’re different from the days we need to sit in our pain and feel it. How we need to define how we’ve been victimized before we can let go of being a victim. Or sit, paralyzed by anguish, fear, and stunned apathy at how unaware we were of how hard things would get. Or those days where we need to look at what we’ve been through, what we’re still hurting through, and sit there and hurt in it. Those move, they’re fluid. Mental illness is fluid. People who plant themselves firmly in misery and soak in it permanently, without trying to solve any puzzles in their lives… that’s not mental illness.

 

“Your mental illness is not a personal failure.”

I cannot put into words what this means for me. To me.

I can do everything right. Make all the right decisions. Get into all the healthy situations, atmospheres, in with all the right therapists and doctors and group therapies. But that sometimes doesn’t affect where my level of mental illness is that day.

I cannot keep myself from ever getting a cold by eating healthy, exercising, and taking healthy herbs and micronutrients.

Just as I cannot keep myself from having the unpredictable and uncontrollable symptoms of a mental illness by doing everything to keep my mental, emotional, and spiritual self as healthy as humanly possible.

Only God can heal me of mental illness permanently. And I am not God.

I can only do so much.

And still, I can get a cold.

That doesn’t mean I’ve personally failed.

 

And somehow, I feel shedding the tears that welled up when I read that sentence, is the only form of communication that can describe, paint, encapsulate all that I feel inside when I read it.

I cannot explain it to you.

You must feel it. You must know it.

We must believe that having a mental illness does not measure if we are a successful human being or not. Our challenges do not define us. What we do about them, how we do it, all those details… those are what define us.

 

“Your mental illness is not a personal failure.”

 

https://www.healthyplace.com/insight/quotes/quotes-on-mental-health-and-mental-illness

 

For more quotes on mental illness, check out this page, which is where I scrolled upon this paradigm re-shaper.