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Tips for Stress-Free Holidays

I’ve started a YouTube series on my new channel on how to stay as stress free as possible during the holiday season.

I do this because it’s a really painful time for a lot of people. The holidays are meant to inspire and create joy and peace within us all. A time for us to remember all that we’re thankful for, the people we love, and all the ways our life has grown. It swells within us the urge to spread love to others, to help out those who stand in need, to uplift the heavy heart.

 

And yet, it turns out to be one of the most depression, anxiety, and emotional pain inducing times of the year.

Rates of depression and anxiety sky-rocket. Parents feel guilt and shame over not having mountains of gifts for their children. Adults feel stretched thin by family, feeling as if there is no way to please everyone, no way to spend time everywhere. We feel we “should” be doing this or that, here or there, and that we never meet the expectations the season has placed on us. We become isolated and lonely, sometimes alienated and sick with stress.

Instead of peace, joy, and love – too often we get manipulation, shame, and anger. This is not how we’re meant to feel.

Our joy and happiness is so important, I can’t express it in words. We’re all so valuable and worthy of the best this world has to offer.

 

I hope you have a healthy, more enjoyable holiday this year. Regardless of what you celebrate or don’t, where you’ll be or what you choose to do or not – you deserve to be treated with love, compassion, respect, and dignity by others AND yourself.

Don’t forget to take care of yourself.

 

What are your experiences this time of the year?

Do you do anything in particular to keep away from the negative emotions and behaviors of this season? Any magical advice?

 

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Thanksgiving- Before and After

BEFORE DINNER

AFTER DINNER

I’m gonna pop. But I’m totally okay with it today.

I hope you enjoyed Thanksgiving! If you don’t celebrate it- I still hope today was fabulous for you. Every day is important.

I have issue with the roots of Thanksgiving but I choose to celebrate what I’m thankful for, regardless.

I’m so glad I have you amazing people of the blogosphere. I hope you feel loved and know you’re valuable beyond measure.

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Flashlight for the Soul

My apartment?

Has Halloween decorations already. Even the front door currently sports a pumpkin welcome sign.

I love Halloween. The spook factor, the decorating, the fun. There’s an atmosphere, a vibe to Fall and Halloween that, for me, is intoxicating.

I’ve loved it since I was a wee mongrel.

I grew up watching creature features and immersed in Halloween joy. I’ve always lived in stories inside my head with the monsters, with the unaccepted and frightening things.

Halloween feels like home.

…aaaaaand so, the celebrating begins.

 

Here’s my reasoning.

Christmas Eve is an actual part of Christmas. Following that line of thinking, September is part of Halloween.

September is, after all, October Eve. And October IS Halloween. Making September Halloween Eve.

Makes sense in my world.

 

We all need something to shake the dust from the joy and creativity in our souls. We sometimes pack it away or put it on a shelf, forget what it feels like to be alive.

Its the little things. The flashlights into the darkened corridors of our rib cage where things hide that we need to wake up again.

Don’t feel silly for enjoying things, even if others find it silly.

It isn’t silly. What brings us joy is never silly.

 

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Dominate and Eradicate Self-Hate

Good morning. 😃

I do hope you are feeling well and know you are loved.

I’m getting ready for work and simply wanted to pop by and remind you that you are fabulous!

You can totally crush this day. Whatever is presented to you – whether new or old hat, easy or something you’re not certain you can do – you can do it.

You are worthy, good enough, lovable, capable, and stronger than you give yourself credit for.

After all life has thrown at you, you are still here and trying. That means you have a 100% success record.

Never give up on yourself. Even if others do. You keep stretching toward your dreams and hopes and never compromise your standards and values.

You are not alone.

We have got this.

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Soul Under Construction

I understood myself only after I destroyed myself. And only in the process of fixing myself, did I know who I really was.

– Sade Andria Zabala

I used to think I understood this quote. On some level my soul recognized its truth, and I knew it meant something for me. A blurry old friend I never remembered making but KNEW I was intimate with even if I didn’t recognize their face.

I get it now.

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Because the Second One is Complicated

Here is the third painting I have done.

I did it while hanging out with mom and watching the movie “August Rush”.

Let me tell you, artists are pretty insanely intelligent. There’s a magic to painting something. It frees up the soul, erases the weight straining it down.

Try something out of your typical creative field. Trust me. It fills you up with inspiration.

And don’t worry about being “good”. Just have fun. I’m no Monet but I’m certainly going to keep painting because of the way it makes me feel.

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Open Up

Some people will tell you, you’re not enough, not worthy.

They are wrong.

You are beautiful. You are good enough.

Open up. Be vulnerable, even if you get hurt. Don’t sign yourself up for getting hurt. But don’t close yourself off from everything real because it risks the sting of a broken heart.

You have an undeniable boatload of potential.

You are eons of life stuffed into a small carry on that people want to stuff in a box and ignore. They’re afraid you’re brilliant.

Be brilliant. Be you.