Tips for Stress-Free Holidays

I’ve started a YouTube series on my new channel on how to stay as stress free as possible during the holiday season.

I do this because it’s a really painful time for a lot of people. The holidays are meant to inspire and create joy and peace within us all. A time for us to remember all that we’re thankful for, the people we love, and all the ways our life has grown. It swells within us the urge to spread love to others, to help out those who stand in need, to uplift the heavy heart.

 

And yet, it turns out to be one of the most depression, anxiety, and emotional pain inducing times of the year.

Rates of depression and anxiety sky-rocket. Parents feel guilt and shame over not having mountains of gifts for their children. Adults feel stretched thin by family, feeling as if there is no way to please everyone, no way to spend time everywhere. We feel we “should” be doing this or that, here or there, and that we never meet the expectations the season has placed on us. We become isolated and lonely, sometimes alienated and sick with stress.

Instead of peace, joy, and love – too often we get manipulation, shame, and anger. This is not how we’re meant to feel.

Our joy and happiness is so important, I can’t express it in words. We’re all so valuable and worthy of the best this world has to offer.

 

I hope you have a healthy, more enjoyable holiday this year. Regardless of what you celebrate or don’t, where you’ll be or what you choose to do or not – you deserve to be treated with love, compassion, respect, and dignity by others AND yourself.

Don’t forget to take care of yourself.

 

What are your experiences this time of the year?

Do you do anything in particular to keep away from the negative emotions and behaviors of this season? Any magical advice?

 

Thanksgiving- Before and After

BEFORE DINNER

AFTER DINNER

I’m gonna pop. But I’m totally okay with it today.

I hope you enjoyed Thanksgiving! If you don’t celebrate it- I still hope today was fabulous for you. Every day is important.

I have issue with the roots of Thanksgiving but I choose to celebrate what I’m thankful for, regardless.

I’m so glad I have you amazing people of the blogosphere. I hope you feel loved and know you’re valuable beyond measure.

Fall is A Lovely Color

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A little taste of lovely life, changing before our eyes. Fall is a phoenix, reminding us that everything must die and be reborn.

We allow our lives to wax old too easily. Allowing our loves and inspirations and motivations to die in a snowy land of desolation and disuse.

Fall is a burst of maddening chaos and reason, reminding us of all this world and all our hearts have to offer – if only we’ll reach out and snatch the vibrancy burning just within our reach.

Amazing, the way the world looks through the lens of a camera.

 

Copyright Daphne Shadows. All Rights Reserved.

 

Dominate and Eradicate Self-Hate

Good morning. 😃

I do hope you are feeling well and know you are loved.

I’m getting ready for work and simply wanted to pop by and remind you that you are fabulous!

You can totally crush this day. Whatever is presented to you – whether new or old hat, easy or something you’re not certain you can do – you can do it.

You are worthy, good enough, lovable, capable, and stronger than you give yourself credit for.

After all life has thrown at you, you are still here and trying. That means you have a 100% success record.

Never give up on yourself. Even if others do. You keep stretching toward your dreams and hopes and never compromise your standards and values.

You are not alone.

We have got this.

RePaint Your Lips

Why do we hedge ourselves in? Trapping ourselves in teeny little boxes until we cannot even lift our heads to grow toward the sun, see the sky, or feel our own soul?

Why do we believe the lies swarming in our faces, plugging our ears until we cannot hear our own voices?

The way to know life is to love many things. – Vincent Van Gogh

We are more than one thing, one emotion, one desire, one purpose, one joy.

We don’t need to wonder why we are hollow. Why we are suffocating.

Pick up your own paintbrush, pen, instrument, keyboard, whatever – and repaint, rewrite your own vision.

Stand up. Throw your box in the recycling bin. Live.

Popocatepetl and Iztaccihuatl – Love and Loyalty

The city I live in has more Mexican restaurants than graves. There’s this fantastic one that I am in love with. Just thinking about it makes me want to swoon on over and order something. If only I had money, transportation, or a gut that likes human food.

*slams head into wall*

*sobs*

*why can’t my gut love Mexican food like I do*

*wails*

 

Anywho.

In every single restaurant, I noticed the same painting. Which got me curious. The myth lover in me knew there had to be a good story behind it.

I looked it up.

There’s a good story behind it.

 

The painting is of Popocatepetl and Iztaccihuatl.

They are the names of two volcanoes visible in Mexico City, which are more than 17,000 feet high. They’re the second and third highest mountains in Mexico.

Iztaccihuatl means “White Woman” because the mountains are always snow capped. The mountain, which has four peaks, looks like the silhouette of a lady lying on her back. Hence the name. Though, people typically refer to it as “Sleeping Woman”.

Popocatepetl means “Smoking Mountain” and is still an active volcano.

The two are connected by a mountain pass named Paso de Cortes.

But that’s not what’s interesting.

 

At first, my only thoughts were that Popo and Izta have quite the tragic love story. I thought it was less love story and more tragedy. But a few days later, after having mulled it over, I realized I really like this story. And I do think it’s a tragedy. But I think it is certainly a love story.

Oh, and I’m going to shorten their names to Izta and Popo because so far I have failed at typing their names correctly. I gave up and copy and pasted their names. No laughing.

 


Izta was the princess; daughter of the ruler. Her lover, Popo, wasn’t allowed to marry her until he went into battle and defeated his enemy.

So off went Popo to fight and Izta awaited his triumphant return.

Popo was victorious, killing their enemies. (Yay!)

But someone told Izta that Popo had not only failed but had died. (not yay)

Some versions of the story say this devious someone was a rival of Popo’s. Others state it as a jealous man who wanted Izta for himself. Regardless, the effect was the same.

Izta fell sick and died from a broken heart. And then Popo popped in to find the love of his life dead because of a lie.

He carries her body to the mountains and builds a pyre for the both of them. He kneels in front of her and dies.

In some versions, Popo remained there to watch over her in her sleep for so long that the snow covered them both and they became volcanoes. In others, the gods were so moved by the love the two shared and the tragedy of their deaths, that they turned Popo and Izta into mountains so they would be together forever.

Regardless, Popo now kneels, facing Izta who lies sleeping, for as long as this earth stands.


 

What I like about this story is – love wins. It may be a bit out of the box. But this story is different than most. They’re together. Forever.

Popo didn’t come home and go on a crazy rampage, killing and maiming out of rage. He focused on his lady. I found that quite interesting. Especially since Popo was a warrior.

I love that he was done. As if his life was over now that she was gone. I wish we had more love like that these days. Love that shows and isn’t all about flashy and hollow gestures.

(I don’t recommend anyone jumps off a bridge or offs themselves when their lover dies. I’m simply commenting on this as a story.)

I really enjoy that this popular legend surrounds love surviving all – even death. It’s all over Mexican restaurants. I love that there’s a celebration of a love story all over the city I live in, in the details.

 

Also, why do all old legends and myths surround everyone that’s in love, dying??? Can we answer that question please?

 

Anywho. Here are some photos of the two volcanoes.

 

Popocatepetl

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Iztaccihuatl

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Sources

http://www.mexonline.com/history-popo.htm

https://www.inside-mexico.com/the-legend-of-popocatepetl-iztaccihuatl/